Gentleness of Patience

When you say the word “patience” 
let it guide you there instantly. 

Remind yourself to be patient 
in times of trouble and stress. 

When you’re next standing in a cue waiting and waiting, 
take some deep, slow breaths and feel oxygen 
fill your body. 

Use the situation to practise patience and achieve 
personal calm.


Kissed by a Rose – Seal.

I’ve had this song stuck in my head for the last 3 weeks straight, pretty much within 1/2 hour of waking up to, eventually sleeping. I didn’t even know all the words until searching today, lol my mind just mumbled missing words. But the melody and passion behind the song I think that has my mind, I would almost say almost obsessed in that one song.

Seal has a great voice, you can hear the heartfelt in his words sung, he’s been down some dark paths in life.  (assuming).

I like Kissed by a Rose, enough to try to learn it on guitar.. wish me luck. 🙂 ha.

Speaking of Guitars, or musical instruments in general, I gotta say, they are a wicked way to get deep down into your soul. I started playing at around 14, started on electric base to be honest, was in the school band for a couple of years, nothing serious of course. I find nothing more calming the soul than playing some nice slow 12 bar blues when you’re feelin’ “bluesy”. Has helped me out many times in my life, I seem to sound better when I’m down too, hehe. I guess it’s from having that little added depth.

Anyway, that’s it for me on this post. Gonna get cracking on this Song.. I’ll post the chords, lyrics below..(Hope ya don’t mind too much Seal. ya just too damn good mate. lol)..


Cheers, Dazz..

Kiss From a Rose  - Seal
transcribed from Seal (the 2nd album)

(capo 4th fret)

E     E                    Cmaj7   D           E
There used to be a graying tower alone on the sea
E     E        Cmaj7         D           E
You became the light on the dark side of me
E      E       Cmaj7            D                E
Love remains a drug that's the high and not the pill
         E                 Em      Cmaj7         D
Did you know that when it snows my eyes become large
        Cmaj7            D             E      E
And the light that you shine can't be seen


  E                      Cmaj7        D           E
Baby, I compare you to a kiss from a rose on the gray
     E                     Cmaj7        D      E
The more I get of you the stranger it feels, yeah
E             Cmaj7        D      Cmaj7            D           E   E
Now that your rose is in bloom, a light hits the gloom on the gray

 E     E                   Cmaj7         D           E
There is so much a man can tell you, so much he can say
E     E       Cmaj7         D          E
You remain my power, my pleasure, my pain, baby
   Em                          D                     E
To me you're like a growin' addiction that I can't deny
E                          Cmaj7         D
Won't you tell me is that healthy, babe?
             E                 Em      Cmaj7         D
But did you know that when it snows my eyes become large
        Cmaj7            D             E      E
And the light that you shine can't be seen


 D    D    A           G           D
I've been kissed by a rose on the gray,
 D         A           G
I've been kissed by a rose
 D    D    A           G           D
I've been kissed by a rose on the gray
 D         A           G           E
I've been kissed by a rose on the gray

 E     E                   Cmaj7         D           E
There is so much a man can tell you, so much he can say
E     E       Cmaj7         D          E
You remain my power, my pleasure, my pain, baby
   Em                          D                     E
To me you're like a growin' addiction that I can't deny
E                          Cmaj7         D
Won't you tell me is that healthy, babe?
             E                 Em      Cmaj7         D
But did you know that when it snows my eyes become large
        Cmaj7            D             E      E
And the light that you shine can't be seen


Now that your rose is in bloom, a light hits the gloom on the gray
Awesome shit!!
heh, was having trouble at start..  it's a damn waltz!!  love it..
Kissed by a Rose



Cleaning and dusting will also clear your mind. 

Wipe away your built up frustrations as you start 
scrubbing and shining. 

Enjoy the process. 

Stay in the moment and don’t worry if you 
don’t finish everything.

Thoughts > Conclusions > Mindset.

I’ve always put myself in a different category when comparing myself against others, I’ve always felt “odd” and that I do not think like “normal” people. I could never understand why they do the same thing everyday, day in day out, I think they call it a routine. I’ve never been able to keep a routine, I’m not sure if it was due to my depression growing up, or if it’s just mind set, pre-programmed if you will.

It is certainly not a good trait to have. Or, is it? I really don’t know. I’ve never really had any structure in my life and it’s been pretty messy in all areas, so that says a lot in itself I guess. I’m always wondering how things could have been. Kinda pointless when I think about it now, can’t change what was. can only change what may be. That’s what I’m told anyway. I can’t even see the “may be” changing my way no matter how I try. just going on track record.

They say, life is what you make it, that’s not entirely true. They say, you get out of life, from what you put into it, again, that’s not entirely true. I’m coming to that time in my life where I’m asking the age old question a lot more, “what is the meaning of life” I honestly think there is no meaning, we are just another species trying to survive. As nature predicts, it’s survival of the fittest. I guess that’s why I’m here and not out there. it’s a dog eat dog world and it scares me a lot.




12 Tips and Tricks to a Better Memory

I seem to be lacking in this area of the mind, you know that thing called, ummm..  bugger it!… ohh yeah, memory!.

I must have one of the worst short term memories on the planet. I have lived a pretty drab life, maybe it’s been trying to forget for so long, it’s now doing it subconsciously. who knows.

Ok, to the point.  I’ve come across these tips and tricks for a better memory, if I remember I will put them into action and see if they work, or at least help. If in the near future I do remember, I’ll come back and report on the outcome. So, here we go.

Memory Tips and Tricks

Memory Tips and Tricks

#1 Repeat yourself.

To help get a routine activity lodged in your brain, say it out loud as you do it, advises Cynthia Green, Ph.D., president of Memory Arts LLC, a company that provides memory fitness training. The same trick — repeating aloud “I’m getting the scissors” — fends off distraction as you head into the kitchen for them. Memory experts also advise that you repeat a person’s name as you’re introduced (“Hi, Alice”) and again as you finish your conversation (“Nice talking with you, Alice”), but if that feels forced, just repeat the name to yourself as you walk away.

#2 Bite off bigger pieces.

Since your brain can process only so much information at a time, try chunking bits together. By repeating a phone number as “thirty-eight, twenty-seven” instead of “3, 8, 2, 7,” you only have to remember two numbers, not four, Dr. Small points out. If you need to buy ground beef, milk, lettuce, cereal, and buns, you might think “dinner” (burgers, buns, lettuce) and “breakfast” (cereal and milk).

#3 Give words more meaning.

When you’re introduced — let’s say to Sally — you can make up a rhyme (“Sally in the alley”) or connect the name to a song (“Mustang Sally”). Some people swear by devices like mnemonics. One New York City dog owner never leaves for the morning walk without her three b’s (bags, biscuits, ball) and two t’s (telephone, tissues).

#5 Create unlikely connections.

Jennifer Rapaport, a mother of three in Somerville, MA, switches her watch to the other wrist when she needs to remember something. The oddity of not finding the watch where it should be triggers her recall.

#6 Stop trying so hard.

You’re watching an old movie on TV and can’t think of the lead actor’s name. “What is it?” you fret. “Why can’t I remember?” Then an hour later, as you’re peeling carrots, “Clark Gable” pops into your head. “Anxiety distracts us, making it even harder to remember,” says Dr. Small. De-stressing — taking deep breaths, thinking of something pleasant — can break the cycle.

#7 Sleep on it.

You also need sleep to make long-term memories last. Studies at Harvard Medical School have shown that when people are given a random list of words to memorize, those who then sleep will recall more words afterward than those who are tested without a chance to sack out.

#8 Address your stress.

Ever wonder why, when you’re already having a maddening day, your memory goes on the blink, too? Blame the stress hormone cortisol. When you’re on edge, it increases in the hippocampus — the brain’s control center for learning and memory — and may interfere with encoding information or retrieving it. Cumulatively, this can be serious: “As you get older, chronic elevated cortisol levels are linked to memory impairment and a smaller hippocampus,” says Shireen Sindi, a researcher in the department of neurology and neurosurgery at McGill University. Another compelling reason to deal with issues that make you stressed.

#9 Eat to your brain’s content.

Foods that keep your heart healthy are also good for your brain. Fish high in omega-3 fatty acids (including sardines and salmon) fight artery-damaging inflammation. Ditto for walnuts. Berries, especially blueberries, are loaded with anthocyanins — potent antioxidants that protect cells, including those in the brain. Blueberries may also have the power to create new pathways for connection in the brain: These connectors tend to die off with age, but in animal studies, blueberry consumption has been shown to help restore them, says Jim Joseph, Ph.D., director of the neuroscience lab at the USDA Human Nutrition Research Center on Aging, Tufts University.

#10 Take a walk (down memory lane).

When you exercise, your brain gets a workout of its own. A new study of 161 adults ages 59 to 81 found that the hippocampus was larger in those who were physically active. “Fitness improvement — even if you’ve been sedentary most of your life — leads to an increase in volume of this brain region,” explains Art Kramer, Ph.D., professor of psychology and neuroscience at the University of Illinois and coauthor of the study. And the bigger the hippocampus, the better able you are to form new memories. You don’t have to live at the gym. “Just get out and walk for an hour a few days a week,” says Kramer.

#11 Practice paying attention.

What color hair did the barista who made your latte this morning have? Was your husband wearing a blue or red tie? Even if you’ll never need the information, forcing yourself to observe and recall the details of your day sharpens your memory, says Dr. Small.

#12 Play mind games.

Doing something mentally challenging — working a crossword puzzle, learning an instrument — creates fresh connections in your brain. “You can actually generate new cells in the hippocampus,” says Peter Snyder, Ph.D., professor of clinical neurosciences at the Warren Alpert School of Medicine at Brown University. Those new cells build cognitive reserves that are important for creating new memories and may protect against memory loss — even dementia — later in life. Games that work to improve processing speed may deliver an extra boost, Smith has found. In a group of older adults, his (company-funded) studies of the computer game Brain Fitness showed that players had a significant improvement in cognitive skills, including memory, compared with those in a control group. Anything that requires working against the clock can help. “A timed game like Boggle or Simon will force you to pay attention, work quickly, and think flexibly,” says Green.

The mind has no time conscience

I’ve been on a bit of a mental roller coaster ride over the last week, ups and downs, ins and outs.  It’s like getting a high on an idea, then when you realise it’s not going to work, you come down again with a bit of a thud. It has been a life pattern of mine for as far back as I can remember.

I’ve come to the conclusion that I am a thinker, a dreamer, not so much a do’er. I’m not sure if this is due to lack of self confidence or I’m just programmed this way. I seem to let myself down more than anything else I guess. Frustrating..

I’m so trying to “self improve” myself, in hopes I start liking me, again. I can’t expect anyone else to believe in me, if I don’t believe in myself.. Small steps, aye.

My cousin, Di has been nagging me to go for walks, to get out of the confinement of my room, lol. I know she’s right, I know I should be getting some of that free air, or more so I need to. But I have no drive to go outside just yet, just the thought of someone looking at me makes me feel small, I know it’s all in my mind, I know my thoughts are those I reflect on myself, but it doesn’t make them less real in my mind. I’m getting on in my years now, I’ll probably work out life’s meaning with one foot in the grave. My mind does not seem to care about time or be conscience of it.


anyway, ’til next time, Dazz.

Breaky with a kick

Make your breakfast 
more interesting and healthier 
by adding fresh fruit, raisins, nuts, 
plain yoghurt shredded coconut, 
carob chips and other interesting treats.

“All happiness depends on a leisurely breakfast.” 
— John Gunther

Mindfullness Traps Everywhere! | | The Vulnerable TruthThe …

You’ve seen it all when you’ve seen a Thai monk riding a jack hammer and breaking concrete in his orange robes…mindfully.

My 10-day stay at Wat Rom Poeng near Chiang Mai, Thailand was a great journey of introspection, insight and mindfullness traps.  And with most journeys of this type it began with massive resistance, for we often resist that which could change us most.  First I resisted the lack of structure and guidance, the rituals and mandatory offerings of lotus petals and incense, and later when instructions were given I resisted the lack of freedom and expression, and the lack of connection.  All were simply my mind resisting, looking for a way to avoid the simple practice that had been given – Be Mindful.
For in that mindfulness, the ego-mind was slowly being revealed, exposed and made vulnerable to awareness.  For 9-10 hours a day I sat cultivating awareness and observing my thoughts, my sensations, my breath, and my identifications.  The monastery offered plenty of opportunities for mindfullness – from the mangoes that dropped like canons from the trees, to slippery door mats, white clothing and colorful food, low doors, and the foreign liason monk who consistently reminded us of our practice with the words, “knowing, knowing, knowing…”
In my meditations, I watched the speed of my mind to label sounds and sensations as they hit my ears and skin.  I heard construction in the background.  I felt the wind of a fan or the sting of a mosquito.  It all felt real to me…until I actually posed the question – “What is Real?”
It came like a lightning bolt slashing through my mind –  the realization that maybe it wasn’t construction, maybe it wasn’t a mosquito,  and maybe the pain I felt in my low back from sitting wasn’t really “pain” at all.  For all these things were labels my mind used to categorize and later evaluate from, deciding whether this or that was good or bad.
In asking the question, “What is real?”, I stopped the mental process of evaluation and labeling, and simply recognized that hearing had occurred, that touch had occurred.
I opened my eyes and began to walk around the monastery, unable to hold back a smile that recognized now that seeing was occuring, and not of anything, but of everything.  The labeling caused things to separate, be divided, but when you just recognized seeing, than you also recognized the Beauty of it all together.
I could feel my heart radiating just as brightly as my smile…for again now feeling everything at once as one instead of the division of this interpretation of touch here and that interpretation of touch there, brought a sense of connection of love.  For love is the essence of connection, the bond that ties it all.
Each step I took flowed forth from me as if my feet were being carried and placed, no longer controlled by muscle, but instead dancing with the elements.  And here I experienced grace, surrender, and peace.
So, my discovery in mindful practice is that the mind will find label and explanation for the expressions of life, but the reality beneath it all is a wholeness we call beauty, a connection we call love, and an experience we call grace.
“Knowing, knowing, knowing….”

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