Top 10 Fast and Hard Rules To Getting Over a Breakup

heart brokenWe all know when there’s an emotional involvement with another human being (or even animal) there’s always grievance when that relationship comes to an end. There’s no real hard and fast set rules to getting over the grief, but there are ways to help you cope and some tips in avoiding prolonging the issue. Sometimes we just have to accept what is and move on.

PHYSICAL

1. Meditate, don’t medicate. Avoid overusing drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and coffee and resist the urge to stuff down your feelings using chocolate and food. You’ll only end up feeling worse about yourself. In times of stress, having a drink or eating a quart of ice cream may be tempting, but doing so will only cause you to spiral down into a depression, lose sleep and gain weight. Instead, take five minutes to sit quietly, meditate, practice yoga or deep breathing.

2. Eat healthfully and regularly. Your body can’t function properly without the proper nutrition. Don’t skip meals or resort to convenience food. Treat yourself as if you were your own child — eat wholesome meals that are balanced and freshly made.

3. Get plenty of sleep. There’s nothing more replenishing to your body than quality sleep. If you are having trouble going to sleep because of punishing, pain-producing thoughts, try this: Keep a journal by your bed, write down your anxieties and imagine them flowing out of you and onto the paper. Say, “I fully release you and let you go. I give myself permission to peacefully sleep.”

4. Exercise your blues away. The absence of pleasure-producing endorphins after a break up can make you feel sluggish and miserable. Exercise increases your endorphins. Join a health club, take the stairs instead of the elevator, walk to work, do some yoga or take a salsa lesson. Make a promise to do something active for 30 minutes a day for 30 days, no excuses.

EMOTIONAL

5. Feel your feelings. Don’t ignore or stuff them down. Let the tears flow and express your anger. Ignored emotions will only make you calloused and afraid. One way of unloading your feelings is to write out what might be too difficult to say out loud to others right now. Or better yet, start a dialogue with your broken heart, asking this part of you questions and giving it the solace and attention it needs right now.

6. Surround yourself with smiles and happy vibes. Make time for some feel good activities — anything from having a cup of tea with a friend to taking the kids to the zoo to playing a round of golf. Be sure to surround yourself with people that will uplift you, not unhappy ones that will just drag you down. Studies have shown that laughter or just smiling has a way of lifting your mood instantly.

MENTAL

7. Stop obsessing. All those obsessive thoughts and instant replays of would of, could of, should of head trips must stop NOW. The best way to do it is to say, “STOP!” If the thoughts won’t stop, then say, “NO! STOP NOW!” If they persist, then continue, “ENOUGH! NO MORE! STOP!”

Saying “STOP!” interrupts the obsessive thought process and breaks the cycle of pain. Immediately, redirect your thoughts away to something good that is happening in your life.

8. Take a 60-second vacation. Thinking relaxing thoughts and verbalizing calming statements starts the healing process and helps you lessen anxiety. Take a deep breath and say out loud, “I am calm. I am safe and I can handle this.” Anything from smelling a flower to petting an animal can help take you away for even a minute, which starts the process of feeling free.

SPIRITUAL

9. Gratitude is grounding. Have you ever noticed that it’s impossible to feel grateful and depressed at the same time? Gratitude can transform pain into love and bring peace to your emotional chaos. Remind yourself of all the things you’re grateful for. Better yet, write it down. This strategy works miracles for bringing you out of any gloomy mood.

10. Give to others. Studies show that the happiest people are ones who give the most to others. When you’re depressed, anxious or stressed, there is a high degree of focus on the self. Focusing on the needs of others literally helps shift your thinking and your mood from victimhood to empowerment.

When you’re feeling down after a breakup, you may feel like you want to avoid the very activities that will actually make you feel better — exercise, visiting friends, being kind to those in need. As much as you might want to, avoid isolating yourself from others. Ask for help and talk to a friend who you know is a good listener. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Don’t think of this as time wasted because you aren’t with that special person, but as precious time you need to reinvest in a healthier, more grounded and more spiritually enlightened you.

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And the Link in the Chain finally Broke.

traintracksWell it was more of a snap that a break. It snapped that hard it flung back and hit me in the head and knocked some freaking sense into me.. Sometimes we need a good knock to the head, not in the literal sense no. Sometimes we need to just be shown the truth. I have to admit that though my last relationship was quite rocky for the most part, I was holding on to the hope we could at the very least remain friends, but, yeah, lol..  It ain’t going to happen.
I think we became that indulged in the idea that the other was going to “do them wrong” that it became a part of our daily life, it continued throughout this last month via email as well. It’s been one long emotional month I can tell you. I’m completely exhausted.

Today, I had my last words with the ex. There’s really no point in devoting time and wasting emotions on someone that’s just not there anymore. There were reasons it came to an end in the first place. We simply failed as a partnership.

One of the hardest things I’ve found with breaking up in the digital age is it’s all to easy to make contact, to leave a message, to check up just to see if they’ve moved on yet, it’s really made this break up drag on…. and on…  I just want it to be finished. So today I did just that. I know it’s still going to be sometime ’til I’m “out and about” again, but I’m in no rush really. I might take this time to learn about who I am and what I’m here for.. To learn to love the world again… And myself…

 

Cheers, Dazz.

 

 

 

Your Past Experiences Are Never Wasted: Learning, Growing and Awareness.

We often get caught up in the moment, that small piece of time in our life that captures our every ounce of energy and inner being. We often get so entranced in things that we feel passionate about, that sometimes we lose track of all reality and what actually is. I to am guilty of this, in fact I’ve been there many times throughout my life. But what may hurt us or make us angry today, may well be an important lesson in time to come. The way we see things today while we’re still “caught up in the moment”, will quite often look different down the track and when we look back on it, we realise that we actually learnt a lesson there and it helped us grow.

Life experiences, both good and bad, shape us to the human beings we become towards the end of our journey. Not all bad experiences turn out as a bad lesson. So please when the you’re going through those hard times, be it emotional or mental, just remember there’s an outcome to all that we live and we will learn from it and continue life with a better future and a broader outlook on life..

Cheers, Dazz.

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You Don’t Need Another Human Being, But…

You can’t beat the soft touch of another human’s heart. Gentle words, understanding. It seems to be a must in our own well-being. As alone as we may wish to be at times, we still need that human contact to remind ourselves that we are actually human to…

Love, Tenderness and Compassion, show it to your friends and share it sparingly. We all know the world could do with a little more.

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Over Active Emotions in the 21st Century – Online Social Media.

fb up yoursIt’s all too easy to get caught up in the moment, to react to something you’re passionate about and before you know it you’ve blurted out all these emotions and hit “submit”. Then you come back the next day, re-read what you typed and think ” Shit! I probably shouldn’t have said that”. But, it’s out there now and in public view. We can always hit the delete button, but who knows who’s already read the content or more so resubmitted it elsewhere. We really need to think ahead before we let our emotions loose in the 21st century.

I know this first hand, I’ve always been a passionate person and tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. But that passion also brings consequences, that being when I’m feeling hurt or angry, I also tend to speak my mind which can often come across as mean, cold or even cruel.. and it often is. Hey, I am only human, if someone’s hurting you, you tend to hit back.. I’ve even read through my past blog entries and shook my own head a few times now. lol.

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I’m going to try to turn over a new leaf with this part of my life. I’m going to try to be amicable in future entries where is concerns people’s emotions and the turmoil situations controlling our lives. It’s not going to be easy, as I said I am a passionate person and well, having access to your own social media and blog is all to easy in getting your point across.

Here’s to a brighter future and less whining. lol. yeah right..

 

Cheers, Dazz.

 

Clearing Out the Closets. Cleansing the Soul

a new lifeWell I just spent a good part of the day cleansing my soul from bad karma and clearing out the digital “closets”. You know what I mean right? Those folders on the computer that’s full of the shit collected over the last several years. Photos, outdated info, those naughty video clips and other bad memories that are no longer wanted. I’m not even going to mention the 100’s if not 1000’s of emails containing long distant arguments with the ex. lol.. Man I wasted some time on that crap. It’s amazing the amount of bullshit you can accumulate on a computer. It was as messy as my life is atm! well, almost.. ha.

Learning some truths about someone you thought you once knew makes it a little easier to move on I guess. It feels great to get rid of those niggling things that remind us of a past you want to put where it belongs… in the past..

A fresh start requires a fresh starting point, so it is inevitable that we “throw out” the clutter that reminds us of things we need to put behind us. Soothing the soul.

Here’s to a new tomorrow..

Night, Dazz.

Fur Code High Tech Pet ID Tags Au$15.99 – Pet Protector Australia


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Click the image above for more information on the new Fur Code.

What a fantastic idea to keep our fury friends safe! Fur Codes are now available in Australia only $15.99!  These are a must have for any pet.

Over 10 million pets are lost each year. Sadly, a very small percentage makes it back to their homes. A lost pet can move fast—in and out of entire neighborhoods to new areas that stimulate their curiosity and further from home. An easily visible ID that contains up-to-date information can make the difference between a happy homecoming or fading hope and heartbreak. FurCodes are affordable, simple to use, and highly effective. The graphic below compares our solution with traditional pet ID alternatives.

Traditional pet tags continue to serve as the primary method for identifying lost pets. However, experts estimate that nearly 60 percent of these tags contain outdated owner contact information, making them virtually useless. FurCodesmakes a substantial improvement to traditional tags by providing pet owners the ability to update their contact information online, rather than having to purchase a new tag with the updated information.

In recent years Microchips have become more mainstream in pet identification. Although a step in the right direction, Microchips have some concerning disadvantages. For starters, microchip identification requires a visit to a shelter equipped with a RFID scanner. Although better in recent years, microchips still suffer from a lack of standardization. There are several varieties of Microchips from multiple vendors; not all shelters or clinics can read each brand. Pets with Microchip implants have been euthanized at locations that did not have the right brand of scanner.

Our approach provides the pet owner with the ability to update your contact information with a few strokes of the keyboard. Pet owners can visit their pet’s free online profile 24/7 to modify contact, vet, and care information. They can also publish photos or any messages they wish to display (Missing or Last seen at)

Pet owners will always retain the ability to choose what information they wish to make visible on the pet profile.

With FurCodes , anyone equipped with a Smartphone or Internet access can quickly scan or enter your pet’s FurCode Tag ID to find out where they belong. Citizens who come across missing pets do not need to visit a shelter (with the proper technology) for scanning. FurCodes place a smaller burden on the finder of a lost pet, making the likelihood of a pet returning home significantly higher.

 

Innovative products to keep your pets comfortable and safe.

We specialise in Cooling and Warming Products for Pets which are fantastic for keeping your pets cool and comfortable during our long, hot Summers or warm and cozy during Winter.

We have something for most of our furry friends, including

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Dog Warming and Cooling Coats

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  • and a range of Horse Cooling Gear.

Another essential item for your dogs and cats are our Non-toxic Flea and Tick Prevention Discs which are long lasting, effective, and very affordable.

These are still quite new to Australia, and are proving to be very popular. You can read about our own personal experience with the discs and also some of our customer’s testimonials to see what other’s think.

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Defamation – Australian Laws

law-scales What is ‘defamation’?

If somebody publishes or spreads false information about you, your reputation might be damaged. This is called ‘defamation’, and it is against the law. The law protects your reputation by not allowing false information about you to be published. If it is too late, and the information has already been published, you can sue the person who has defamed you and the court may award you damages (money) to compensate you for the damage done to your reputation.

 

When will something be ‘defamatory’?

First, at least one person (other than the person who is being defamed) has to see or hear the false information.

Second, the material must be such that if an average person saw or heard, it, that person would think less of you. For example, it can be defamatory for someone to:

say you are dishonest or disloyal,
ridicule you,
accuse you of committing a crime, or
say you have a disease.
It may also be defamatory for someone to imply something negative about you.

What if you have been defamed?

You can sue the person responsible for defaming you, and you can also sue anyone involved in publishing the false information (for example a publisher or a newspaper).

If the court finds that the information was false and defamatory, you may be awarded money to compensate you for damage to your reputation, your hurt feelings and any economic loss you have suffered because of the defamation.

If you believe that you are about to be defamed, you can bring an urgent court action to stop the material from being published.

If you believe you have been defamed and you want to take the matter to court, you should get the advice of an experienced lawyer, as defamation law is complicated.

magnifyinglassWhat are other ways of dealing with defamation?

You can approach the publisher/author directly and request that they do not publish or write the defamatory material.

If the material has already been published, you may:

do nothing,
ask for an apology, or
ask the publisher to publish an apology or clarification.
Defenses to defamation
Publishing something which might seem defamatory won’t be against the law if:

the information is substantially true,
the information is published with the consent of the person being defamed, or
the information wasn’t very important and it is unlikely that the person’s reputation will actually be damaged.

What is ‘defamation’?

If somebody publishes or spreads false information about you, your reputation might be damaged. This is called ‘defamation’, and it is against the law. The law protects your reputation by not allowing false information about you to be published. If it is too late, and the information has already been published, you can sue the person who has defamed you and the court may award you damages (money) to compensate you for the damage done to your reputation.

When will something be ‘defamatory’?

First, at least one person (other than the person who is being defamed) has to see or hear the false information.

Second, the material must be such that if an average person saw or heard, it, that person would think less of you. For example, it can be defamatory for someone to:

say you are dishonest or disloyal,
ridicule you,
accuse you of committing a crime, or
say you have a disease.
It may also be defamatory for someone to imply something negative about you.

What if you have been defamed?

You can sue the person responsible for defaming you, and you can also sue anyone involved in publishing the false information (for example a publisher or a newspaper).

If the court finds that the information was false and defamatory, you may be awarded money to compensate you for damage to your reputation, your hurt feelings and any economic loss you have suffered because of the defamation.

If you believe that you are about to be defamed, you can bring an urgent court action to stop the material from being published.

If you believe you have been defamed and you want to take the matter to court, you should get the advice of an experienced lawyer, as defamation law is complicated.

What are other ways of dealing with defamation?

You can approach the publisher/author directly and request that they do not publish or write the defamatory material.

If the material has already been published, you may:

do nothing,
ask for an apology, or
ask the publisher to publish an apology or clarification.
Defenses to defamation
Publishing something which might seem defamatory won’t be against the law if:

the information is substantially true,
the information is published with the consent of the person being defamed, or
the information wasn’t very important and it is unlikely that the person’s reputation will actually be damaged.

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Bottom line is: If you speak the truth, you really have nothing to worry about. Other than the potential of looking like an arsehole.

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Empathy – Traits, Feelings and Emotions of an Empath.

i feel youI’ve been told by my psychologist a number of times now that I have a lot of empathy. I didn’t really understand the word at the time, but I understood the feeling. I often look upon the world and feel the pain we are all experiencing, not physically, but emotionally – spiritually if you will. I’m not just unhappy like you feel bad for someone having a hard time, but a deep heart felt pain in my chest. I often shed a tear at touching situations and feel my heart beat heavy often when I see someones face light up with excitement. I used to think I was broken, but since have learned that I just feel what’s around me. Sometimes I just want to hug the world and make everything alright.

 

How do you know if you’re an Empath?

Reading people’s feelings without trying. Empaths know what a person is feeling regardless of how a person “looks” on the outside?

  • He or she may be smiling, but you know absolutely they are anxious or depressed.
Finding people gravitating to you for help. Empaths are often drawn, almost compelled to help them?
  • People you have never met before may open up their deepest secrets to you, for example, while grocery shopping.

Craving alone time. Empaths need time alone with almost no external input.

  • This is not just a preference, but a need to avoid getting overwhelmed by emotional information from others.

Knowing information when it is asked for. Empaths have this trait even as children.

  • Others perceived this to be precocious as you all too often answered adults in conversation with the correct answer. Sometimes, in school, you did not need to study but just knew the answers.

Feeling strong emotional impacts everywhere. Empaths feel emotions while walking down the street when passing complete strangers.

  • Knowing, absolutely knowing, when someone is in crisis with their health or emotions?
  • If so, do you often have a sense of what is wrong?

Feeling emotional impacts from animals as well. Empaths take in signals from people and animals, often equally.

  • Have you ever felt in passing that a dog or cat was depressed? Joyous? Nervous?
  • Can you help to calm or help alleviate depression in a pet, even someone else’s that you just met?

Waking up startled by sudden and intense feelings, and know they are not yours?   Feeling emotional “ripples” in the world?

  • If there is a catastrophe that elicits a strong emotional response from masses of people, can you feel them? See them?

Knowing who is calling without being near a phone or cell phone. Empaths can feel someone is reaching out.

  • You might even tell others who is calling them and not think that is unusual.

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30 More Traits of an Empath.

1. Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.

2. Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums where there are lots of people around can fill the empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.

3. Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for empaths. To some they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from great distance.

4. Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.

5. You know when someone is not being honest: If a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.

6. Picking up physical symptoms off another: An empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains) especially those they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.

7. Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an empath, will almost always be ungrounded.

8. Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an empath’s attention and compassion.

9. Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.

10. Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.

11. Addictive personality: Alcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions that empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It is a form of self protection in order to hide from someone or something.

12. Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many empaths would love to heal others they can end up turning away from being healers (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily. Even at the revelation of what many others would consider unthinkable, for example, empaths would have known the world was round when others believed it was flat.

13. Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.

14. Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.

15. Need for solitude: An empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.

16. Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.

17. Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many empaths get labelled as being lazy.

18. Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.

19. Always looking for the answers and knowledge: To have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.

20. Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.

21. Abhors clutter: It makes an empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy. 22. Loves to daydream: An empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.

23. Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an empath even poisoning.

24. Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.

25. Excellent listener: An empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.

26. Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider another’s feelings or points of view other than their own.

27. The ability to feel the days of the week: An empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.

28. Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand: Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

29. Sense the energy of food: Many empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.

30. Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnected: Depending on how an empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.

If you can say yes to most or all of the above then you are most definitely an empath

Empaths are having a particularly difficult time at the present time, picking up on all the negative emotions that are being emantated into the world from the populace. yourmind

TRAITS OF AN EMPATH – by Christel Broederlow

Empaths are often quiet achievers. They can take a while to handle a compliment for they’re more inclined to point out another’s positive attributes. They are highly expressive in all areas of emotional connection, and talk openly, and, at times quite frankly. They may have few problems talking about their feelings if another cares to listen (regardless of how much they listen to others).

However, they can be the exact opposite: reclusive and apparently unresponsive at the best of times. They may even appear ignorant. Some are very good at “blocking out” others and that’s not always a bad thing, at least for the learning empath struggling with a barrage of emotions from others, as well as their own feelings.

Empaths have a tendency to openly feel what is outside of them more so than what is inside of them. This can cause empaths to ignore their own needs. In general an empath is non-violent, non-aggressive and leans more towards being the peacemaker. Any area filled with disharmony creates an uncomfortable feeling in an empath. If they find themselves in the middle of a confrontation, they will endeavor to settle the situation as quickly as possible, if not avoid it all together. If any harsh words are expressed in defending themselves, they will likely resent their lack of self-control, and have a preference to peacefully resolve the problem quickly.

Empaths are more inclined to pick up another’s feelings and project it back without realizing its origin in the first place. Talking things out is a major factor in releasing emotions in the learning empath. Empaths can develop an even stronger degree of understanding so that they can find peace in most situations. The downside is that empaths may bottle up emotions and build barriers sky-high so as to not let others know of their innermost thoughts and/or feelings. This withholding of emotional expression can be a direct result of a traumatic experience, an expressionless upbringing, or simply being told as a child, “Children are meant to be seen and not heard!”

Without a doubt, this emotional withholding can be detrimental to one’s health, for the longer one’s thoughts and/or emotions aren’t released, the more power they build. The thoughts and/or emotions can eventually becoming explosive, if not crippling. The need to express oneself honestly is a form of healing and a choice open to all. To not do so can result in a breakdown of the person and result in mental/emotional instability or the creation of a physical ailment, illness or disease.

Empaths are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. Violence or emotional dramas depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children or animals can bring an empath easily to tears. At times, they may feel physically ill or choke back the tears. Some empaths will struggle to comprehend any such cruelty, and may have grave difficulty in expressing themselves in the face of another’s ignorance, closed-mindedness and obvious lack of compassion. They simply cannot justify the suffering they feel and see.

You will find empaths working with people, animals or nature with a true passion and dedication to help them. They are often tireless teachers and/or caretakers for our environment and all within it. Many volunteers are empathic and give up personal time to help others without pay and/or recognition.

Empaths may be excellent storytellers due to an endless imagination, inquisitive minds and ever-expanding knowledge. They can be old romantics at heart and very gentle. They may also be the “keepers” of ancestral knowledge and family history. If not the obvious family historians, they may be the ones who listen to the stories passed down and possess the majority of the family history. Not surprisingly, they may have started or possess a family tree.

They have a broad interest in music to suit their many expressive temperaments, and others can query how empaths can listen to one style of music, and within minutes, change to something entirely different. Lyrics within a song can have adverse, powerful effects on empaths, especially if it is relevant to a recent experience. In these moments, it is advisable for empaths to listen to music without lyrics, to avoid playing havoc with their emotions!

They are just as expressive with body language as with words, thoughts, and feelings. Their creativity is often expressed through dance, acting, and bodily movements. Empaths can project an incredible amount of energy portraying and/or releasing emotion. Empaths can become lost in the music, to the point of being in a trance-like state; they become one with the music through the expression of their physical bodies. They describe this feeling as a time when all else around them is almost non-existent.

People of all walks of life and animals are attracted to the warmth and genuine compassion of empaths. Regardless of whether others are aware of one being empathic, people are drawn to them as a metal object is to a magnet!

Even complete strangers find it easy to talk to empaths about the most personal things, and before they know it, they have poured out their hearts and souls without intending to do so consciously. It is as though on a sub-conscious level that person knows instinctively that empaths would listen with compassionate understanding. Then again, for empaths, it is always nice to actually be heard themselves!

Here are the listeners of life. They can be outgoing, bubbly, enthusiastic and a joy to be in the presence of, as well as highly humorous at the most unusual moments! On the flip side, empaths can be weighted with mood swings that will have others around them want to jump overboard and abandon ship! The thoughts and feelings empaths receive from any and all in their life can be so overwhelming (if not understood) that their moods can fluctuate with lightning speed. One moment they may be delightfully happy and with a flick of the switch, miserable.

Abandoning an empath in the throes of alternating moods can create detrimental effects. A simple return of empathic love–listening and caring compassionately without bias, judgment and/or condemnation–can go an incredibly long way to an empath’s instant recovery. Many empaths don’t understand what is occurring within them. They literally have no idea that another person’s emotions are now felt, as one’s own and reflected outwardly. They are confused as to how one moment all was well, and then the next, they feel so depressed, alone, etc. The need to understand the possibilities of empath connection is a vital part of the empaths journey for themselves and for those around them.

Empaths are often problem solvers, thinkers, and studiers of many things. As far as empaths are concerned, where a problem is, so too is the answer. They often will search until they find one – if only for peace of mind. This can certainly prove beneficial for others in their relationships, in the workplace, or on the home front. Where there is a will, there is a way and the empath will find it. The empath can literally (likely without the knowledge of what’s actually occurring) tap into Universal Knowledge and be receptive to guidance in solving anything they put their head and hearts into.

Empaths often are vivid and/or lucid dreamers. They can dream in detail and are inquisitive of dream content. Often they feel as though the dreams are linked to their physical life somehow, and not just a mumble of nonsensical, irrelevant, meaningless images. This curiosity will lead many empathic dreamers to unravel some of the “mysterious” dream contents from an early age and connect the interpretation to its relevance in their physical life. If not, they may be led to dream interpretations through other means.

Empaths are daydreamers with difficulty keeping focused on the mundane. If life isn’t stimulating, off an empath will go into a detached state of mind. They will go somewhere, anywhere, in a thought that appears detached from the physical reality, yet is alive and active for they really are off and away. If a tutor is lecturing with little to no emotional input, empaths will not be receptive to such teaching and can (unintentionally) drift into a state of daydreaming.

Give the empath student the tutor who speaks with stimuli and emotion (through actual experience of any given subject) and the empath is receptively alert. Empaths are a captivated audience. This same principle applies in acting. An actor will either captivate the audience through expressing (in all aspects) emotions (as though they really did experience the role they are portraying) or will loose them entirely. Empaths make outstanding actors.

Empaths frequently experience déjà vu and synchronicities. What may initially start as, “Oh, what a coincidence”, will lead to the understanding of synchronicities as an aspect of who they are. These synchronicities will become a welcomed and continually expanding occurrence. As an understanding of self grows, the synchronicities become more fluent and free flowing. The synchronicities can promote a feeling of euphoria as empaths identify with them and appreciate the connection to their empathic nature.

Empaths are most likely to have had varying paranormal experiences throughout their lives. NDE’s (Near death experiences) and or OBE’s (Out of body experiences) can catapult an unaware empath into the awakening period and provide the momentum for a journey of discovery. Those who get caught up in life, in society’s often dictating ways, in work etc., can become lost in a mechanical way of living that provides very little meaning. All “signs of guidance” are ignored to shift out of this state of “doing”. A path to being whole again becomes evident and a search for more meaning in one’s life begins.

These types of experiences appear dramatic, can be life-altering indeed, and are most assuredly just as intensely memorable in years to come. They are the voice of guidance encouraging us to pursue our journey in awareness. Sometimes, some of us require that extra assistance!

For some empaths, the lack of outside understanding towards paranormal events they experience, may lead to suppressing such abilities. (Most of these abilities are very natural and not a coincidence.) Empaths may unknowingly adopt the positive or negative attitude of others as their own. (This, however, can be overcome.) Empaths may need to follow interests in the paranormal and the unexplained with curiosity so as to explain and accept their life circumstances.

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1 Minute Anxiety and Depression Checklist

I just took the Anxiety & Depression questionnaire on BeyondBlue.org.au. The results are below. I well know I have depression, so the results here are more for display purposes. I did however answer the questions truthfully. If you’re feeling down more often than not, it might be worth while taking a minute to complete this quick questionnaire. With some quick basic questions it only takes a minute. Simply follow this link to BeyondBlue.  Anxiety and depression checklist (K10)

By the way, my results were….

Your Score

38 (High)

What does your score mean?

Your score falls in to the high range.

What should I do now I have my score?

We strongly recommend you talk to your GP or other health professional.
If you are in crisis and need urgent help, call emergency services (Triple zero – 000), Lifeline (13 11 14) or go to your local hospital emergency department.
Find out where to get help.
Find a doctor or health professional in your area.
Access online programs and trusted information on depression, stress and anxiety at mindhealthconnect
Go to MindSpot who provide a free telephone and online therapist-guided treatment courses and referrals to help people recover and stay well.
If you are concerned about how you are feeling and need information, advice or support call the beyondblue support line on 1300 22 4636 or make an appointment to talk to your GP.
It’s important to seek help early – the sooner you get treatment, the sooner you can recover.

That link again is Anxiety and depression checklist (K10)

Cheers, Dazz.